I'm Back! - Back to Basics

My Dear Readers,

I would like to start my blog again. I apologize for my long absence. I was very busy with work. I started a job as a web strategist at a major retail store chain in Canada. The learning curve is very steep so it kept me awake many nights figuring things out. Now that I'm getting a good grip I can start writing again. I hope you enjoyed my articles and I hope you'll enjoy all the articles that I will write.

As I make my come back, I wanted to go back to basics on how to sexually arouse your woman. Basically, you can boil down the whole game into a few simple principals. These principals are not final.

Principal # 1: Mindset about sexually arousing a woman.
This is one of the most important bits when it comes to this topic. Because if you're in for the wrong reasons in your own mind, you will be shooting yourself in the foot. Some of you may ask me, What do you mean... I fail even before I approach; and I answer YES! How is it possible? Well, let me enlighten you.

If you feel that you're doing something wrong while trying to use a technique to sexually arouse her, the consequences will be dire. Some of you might feel that using “tricks” is a non-legit way of getting to where you want. Some of you might think that its dishonest and immoral. Believe it or no, when I was first studying this stuff, there are some times that I felt immoral while trying to sexually arouse a woman using a technique. Because its the technique that counts.. not my.. not my personality. Every time I used a technique, while doing it, I felt the itch of morality crawling upon me, and because of that, my delivery was bad. I felt as if my motives were not legit. But the more I thought about it, I couldn't help myself from feeling enlightened and realizing that everything I was doing was actually pretty cool.

First thing you gotta realize is that there is nothing wrong with using a technique for the right reason. For example, electricity is a really nice technology. Its a technique of harnessing the power of nature to create light, power computers and servers, and even power hospitals to save people's life. Now, that same technology can be a very immoral tool as well. Electricity can be used to electrocute people, warfare and making hazardous material that can be used for malicious purpose. With seduction its the same things. The stuff I teach you is powerful, but its your duty to use it in the right way.

Also, don’t think that girls are all innocent when it comes to seduction. As a women grows up, she learns a set of skills on how to tease, flirt, get a guy to buy her stuff. Some even take it to the extreme and use their tactics to secure a rich man to provide for them their entire life. The techniques that I'll be teaching you will help you deal with these kind of manipulations quite easily.

See, what you have to understand about what you're doing is that you have to be cool about what you do. I mean, isn't all the cool guys that end up with the girl. I thought so. So consider this with a grain of salt. This is important. More on that tomorrow.

How to escalate & reward

Like I was saying in my previous post, you got to get her to do invest, so it doesn't seem like you have no value.

You give her the chance or opportunity to make an effort, to be interesting,  do something,  to tell something important, to tell a story thats about her or personal to her, or somethings special about her.

That what you have to escalate on. That means, moving things forwards. You can escalate and reward with touches, hugs, hand shakes, longer hugs, 1 handed hubs etc..

Also, you gotta verbally reward her effort to make her feel that her effort has not gone to waste.

I'll talk more about it in future posts.

An example of effort, reward, and escalation when picking up girls:

So you're waiting in line in Starbucks, and you ask the girl thats standing next to you, "Hi .. blah blah.. They got quite the selection in Starbucks..What a good drink to get?" and if she gives you an answer, then you get to invest by having her justifying her answer, then you reward, "wow, you know how to enjoy your life" then you escalate, by inviting her to drink coffee with you. 

PS. reward based on the effort she gave you. Don't be too excited if she just gave you a lighter to light up a smoke or something. 

Rewarding her Effort

See, when your girl makes an effort to impress you, and give you information, or any sort of effort thats good, or awesome you gotta reward it, and then, escalate from that.

Here are the steps:
1) She makes effort
2) You reward it
3) You escalate

So, she makes effort, you reward her, and then escalate. Lets say she's in your place chilling on couch, while you just came downstairs from browsing cool blogs, and you sit down on a chair close to her.  You fluff talk for a second, then you give her an opportunity to put an effort in coming up with something cool. Like, you can ask her, "If you had a million dollars, whats the first place you would travel to, she would tell you, and you add to it by adding some imagery. Lets say, if she says Italy, you say, "Oh yeah, We'd eat so much delicious Italian pizza and pasta till we explode" (or something..) then reward her, "Thats really cool, tell me more.. etc..", then escalate by moving from the chair to the couch and sit next to her.

This sort of tactic works when picking up a woman as well.  I'll give an example on the next post.

Escalate on her high points

OK, so you've got a nice personal vibe going, how do you know when to start moving things forward physically?

You get either naturally sense it or, you escalate on a a moment where tension is high, excitement is high, there is lots of laughing, or you've reach some sort of great idea/revelation. You do it when she feels great, like the high points of the interaction. You gotta feel it, and go for it.

To create those high points, you don't have to show off, because she'll sense that you're trying to show off, and that means that you're over compensating, or trying too hard.

Also, remember, you gotta escalate on HER high point, not yours, and there are many ways to escalate things physically, but we'll focus on this approach for now.

Next Post: How to get things moving along physically

She must earn your interest!

Many guys are too serious, and they never show interest in women. They can be funny, smart, entertaining, charming, but they don't show interest in women for some strange reason.

I mean, every time you talk to a woman for more than 10 mins at a time, you already showing interest. It leaks out!
Every-time they try to show interest

She thinks in her mind, "Why do I get all this interest, or attention. I haven't done anything to deserve it." and when she gets this feeling, she thinks that you're hiding something, or over compensating having something wrong with you, or that you've done something bad.

So that causes your perceived value PLUMMET to the ground!
Value = Exist only when you've done/feel something to earn it. (Plus a bunch of other things that I talked about in my blog previously)

Its like free money, if you get it without any effort, you wont think twice about spending it.

She has to deserve it. She has to do something to deserve your interest or attention.

Personal Vibe - Look for reasons to make it personal

Basically, after you've fluff talked for a bit, you have to LOOK for reasons to make it personal and make that transition into that personal vibe.

Look for something that she says or does to make it personal. Look for hints that will make you explore her personality or qualities. I'm not talking about judging her, but I want you to find ways to find out more about her personality, perferences, biases, and all the other things that make her .. her.  Then talk about it; personify it. Build a story or an image about something thats interesting for her. Then, if you make it funny, that wins you extra points in sexually arousing a woman.

I'll talk more in detail about this in later posts.

But I have to cover one more ground before talking more about building a personal vibe: How to get her to earn your interest.