This is where you almost go into a game where you have different roles. For example, a teacher student role: “Pay attention now.., you gotta learn this. it will be on the quiz" and to add compliance to it, you gotta add, "I know you’ve done all you homework, and all the extra curricular..”
Or you can take her to a quick imaginary vocation, “Sweetie, I just got a 2 months vocation from my job, and we’re visit Hawaii this right now. Ok, we've just landed, We’ve never been here before together..” Saying that establishes a role play that’s going on, which makes her in her mind go there and imagine as if she's there.
Then you can say, “Thanks for all the work you’ve done, booking a room, you packed all my clothes away, “you’re mentioning all this compliance, but she still thinks its role play. It makes it more likely to get compliance in the future. You have to do it in a playful way too. Gotta use that humour lol