First of all, if a girl doesn’t do what you want her to do, its not a big deal. I mean, its not like she’s your slave or something. She’s her own person, and can and should act accordinly. If you don’t get compliance, ignore it. But then, try another form of compliance later on. DO NOT punish her for not complying with you, it will seem kind of strange.
Do not punish her on purpose. See, that will make her feel like a disciplined dog, (unless she’s into it). But nothing wrong with reinforcing something that you like when she’s doing by giving her a compliment, or a rub. Dont let it faze you. When you faze, you fuck up lol.